December, 2005 Newsletter

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How Do You Move Through Transitions?

Can you believe that 2005 is coming to a close? And 2006 is approaching in just a few weeks.

How are you reacting to this transition? Perhaps you are upset to see the year ending, feeling some regrets about things you had hoped to do or have that are not yet here. Or, maybe you are full of excitement about the possibilities for the future.

Each of us deals with change differently. I find that when I am more aware of smaller, subtle shifts, I am better able to cope with larger changes. For example, I notice the times of year when clients feel reluctant to commit to career change. As the weather starts to warm up, some of my clients will mention vacations. Instead of talking of plans, others may simply seem "lighter" at the beginning of a career coaching session, and then their voices become fainter and slower towards then end of the session. They seem less committed to career change, sometimes because they are excited about the change in season and really want a bit of time to play and enjoy. Because I sense their small shifts, I can help each client set up a plan that will help them maintain the momentum and keep their career progress on track.

What about for you? How do you notice the changes in your work and your industry -- or in your life in general? What are the cues that tell you that a transition is ahead? As we move into the New Year, you might want to notice:

Are you more excited about the future (such as talking about plans) or more caught up in the past (grumbling about what’s still incomplete)? When people talk about their plans for 2006, do you feel at ease, or do you find yourself tensing up and worrying? Have you considered the goals or qualities of what you want to create in 2006, or do you tend to procrastinate about that?

As 2005 winds to a close, and we go holiday shopping, attend parties and family gatherings, and celebrate the New Year, the pace can feel hectic. Rather than “forcing” or “muscling” yourself into moving at such a frenetic pace, I encourage you to be compassionate and listen to your own inner rhythms of change. Take a deep breath and find what’s true and right for you.